Your Questions About How To Lose Belly Fat For Women After Pregnancy
Susan asks…
Freaked out about pregnancy, don’t want kids because of it, why would anyone?
I’m at the age where everyone I know is starting to have babies (late 20′s early 30′s) and it’s not something that I EVER think about other than how gross I would feel with a pregnant belly and how ugly I would look with stretch marks and baby fat! I just don’t understand WHY anyone would want to go through that for a baby. Not only that but you don’t have your own life for years after the kid comes.
Am I the only one who feels this way or are there other women out there who don’t want kids for these reasons?
Just to add…I know I’m selfish as to how I don’t want my body to change. Those are not the only reasons. I want a life, I want a career and I don’t want my kids raised by day care people. I don’t have a mother who can babysit while I’m at work and I just don’t see how it’s possible to accomplish a lot in life while having children. Anyone who is in a high power position and has children neglects them. That’s not fair to the kid.
Sorry anyone who I KNOW (or work with – I”m not saying everyone in the world) who is in a high power position neglects they kids for work.
Ramesh Klinkert answers:
I know how you feel. I am pregnant now and my fear has been losing my life.
But I keep thinking of all the wonderful times I’m going to have 
This is life.
Lizzie asks…
Pregnancy Question….PICTURE included????
I was just wondering when you think i am going to show…and when i am 8-9 months if you think i will be big…like a normal pregnancy…since i am overweight to start with…Right now i am 13 wks 3 days…not showing at all…not expecting to for a while…
*also please dont comment and call me fat…i already know im overweight and this question is all about my pregnancy not about my weight currently…Thank you….
http://i191.photobucket.com/albums/z117/KT08dec88/13wks3dys.jpg?t=1210635556
Ramesh Klinkert answers:
I was overweight before my pregnancy as well and I got pretty big. My belly measured 49 inches around the day before birth. I started showing around 5 months, but I have a large chest, so it helped conceal it. I also only gained 26 lbs during pregnancy, and I lost it all by 10 days after delivery. I don’t think it matters what you weigh, all women look pretty huge by 9 months, because it’s not how you are used to looking. Good Luck and don’t worry how big you are, just be healthy.
EDIT: you do look like you are showing a little, your lower tummy looks firm, like a pregnant belly
Mark asks…
Could you guys answer my questions regarding pregnancy?
I am 22 yrs old and this is my first baby and I have a few questions.
After you deliver the baby does your stomach immediately shrink back down?
I know lots of women have loose skin but I plan on breast feeding and then using the belly wrap to get my stomach back in shape.
While pregnant have you noticed a stronger vaginal odor?
I went to my doctor and I have know infection but I am just grossed out bc it smells musky down below
Typically how long does lochia last and what are the best sanitary napkins?
My final and last question is that exactly how much weight is one suppose to gain per trimester.
I started off at 130 and at 21 wks I am now a 144lbs. Does it sound like I am gaining too much weight. I am just trying to ensure that I am not getting too big.
Ramesh Klinkert answers:
After you deliver the baby does your stomach immediately shrink back down?
No, it doesn’t. While you will feel a lot lighter, you will still have a belly for a little while, your uterus slowly shrinks down to its original size, and might take months for your stomach to shrink. Plus, you’ll have some baby fat to lose, and that depends on you and how much you are able to lose in a certain period of time.
While pregnant have you noticed a stronger vaginal odor?
Yes, and it is normal. It doesn’t necessarily mean infection, during pregnancy you will have increased discharge throughout the pregnancy, a lot more than what you normally have when you’re not pregnant. That will cause a stronger vaginal odor.
Typically how long does lochia last and what are the best sanitary napkins?
Post-partum vaginal discharge, in normal cases, usually last about 4-6 weeks after delivery. The best sanitary napkins are the ones that you are most comfortable using, but my preference are the ones that absorb a lot, because you will bleed a lot after delivery. It will slowly die down, but there for awhile you will bleed quite a bit.
My final and last question is that exactly how much weight is one suppose to gain per trimester.
That all depends on you. Typically, an overweight person should gain a lot less weight throughout their pregnancy than a person who is of a normal weight or underweight. Here’s a good page that can help you figure that out: http://www.babycenter.com/0_pregnancy-weight-gain-what-to-expect_1466.bc
Sandy asks…
Post natal horrors. Please help!!?
My baby boy is now 31/2 months and yesterday I looked in the mirror and for the first time I noticed my hairline is receding. I already look so awful after this second pregnancy and none of this happened with the first. Granted I was unable to take prenatal vitamins because it never stayed down but had I known about this hair loss horror I might have kept forcing them down everytime they came up. My hair thinned a lot with the first pregnancy three years prior but OMG this time I am balding at the front. What can I do to stop this??? My belly still looks awfully fat and jiggly to the point where sucking it in is hopeless and I am too exhausted even to exercise everyday because I am up at stupid hours all the time consumed with baby, preschooler, husband, house work and housewife duties (paying bills, grocery, dropping off and picking up monster toddler at school with baby in tow all the time). I have tyres all around my midsection and I feel so embarrassed by the way I look that I have become dowdy, dressing down in t-shirts to cover my flabby, overlapping belly in my jeans. My self esteem is waning and I feel so depressed (NOT POST NATAL DEPRESSION I might add). I used to be so fit and so skinny that at one time I considered taking weight gain suppliments. I was an avid hiker, gym enthusiast, swimmer, scuba diver and adventurer and at that time I was a carreer oriented woman. I have since given it up to be a full time mommy and wife which equals overwork and underpay. I used to be able to shake off things that could get me down but this weight gain has got me down down down. I know someone is going to tell me to go to councelling but really can anyone suggest anything else before this? My birthday recently passed making me 38 and I went all out, dressed up and looked (I thought) great!! Then I saw the pictures and felt so awful at how fat I looked but marvelled at how pretty I managed to look….especially my hair. It’s not just vanity working here either but I have always been happy with my looks. Now I’m tired though happy with my wonderful husband, toddler and my bundle but my 3 year old is telling me I am a fat mommy. Well now I am a fat, BALDING mommy and that does NOT feel good. I eat right, do the most exhausting work at home that makes me sweat more than the gym and drink plenty water. Whatelse can I do to stop this hair loss and lose this damned weight so I can feel normal again?
Ramesh Klinkert answers:
I’d suggest having a full medical checkup to workout if there is any underlying cause for your hair receding like thyroid issues for example. If you have been feeling this way for some time and is effecting your enjoyment of life and your family then seriously consider depression as being an issue. The best thing to do is ask for help as ‘coping’ only ends up making things worse. It sounds like some time out is definately in order to destress. Can you arrange some time to do things you like to do regularly, catch up with girlfriends, have a massage, window shopping, swimming, see a movie, read short stories, take a class etc. (my things are rowing, galleries and the occasional massage). Organise alternate ‘me-time’ alone with your partner, and also shcedule fortnightly couple time, swap childcare with a mothers group, have family or friends babysit or hire someone. It can be challenging accepting the physical changes and loss of the independent career women we once were. Funnily enough my now teenage son likes my stretch marks because they are the reminder of when he was in my tummy and makes it comfortable to rest his head on when we watch a movie…go figure! I think it’s good to remember that this time will pass, I also do volunteer work which helps to remind me of how organised and competent I can be despite children! It’s not ok for your child to be calling you fat, are they picking up on your negative body image or conversations? Even though my weight is far from ideal I hope by exercising regularly and being active in the community I am setting a good example for my 3 year old girl. Take care.
Carol asks…
arrgghh!!! SAD and enraged about post pregnancy body!!!!!!!!!!?
Hi,
Im on my 6th months pregnancy and many things going crazy in my mind and i cant figure them out!!
1- i have put on so much weight!! I used to have weight problem when was a teenager and i struggled to have an ideal weight. Now im pregnant and i feel like a balloon!! i look fat and ugly!
I put on so much weight within the blink of an eye!!!!!! I was 58kgs and now im weighing aorund 70-75 kgs!!!! I just cant believe it!! i have my MIL who said that my cheeks got bigger (she means that im fat- she always competes with me by the way and i guess she is happy now that im fat..)
My collegues pisses me off saying that i cant eat the whole day (even if they will see me having my first meal!!!!!) Even a new mum would always come and watch me eating!!!!! This is so gross!!!
2- Stretch marks!!! I already had tons and now my body looks like a zebra!! Its only my first baby damm*t!!!! i apply cocoa butter everyday all over my body !! i drink water etc etc but it seems that my stretch marks keeps having fun by spreading on my whole body! (did i say that my mum look like a zebra as well???? its in the genes so i cant run away from it…)
I feel soooooo ugly and im so anxious that i wont be able to lose all those weight! I havent even delivered the 1st one and my husband is thinking about a 2nd!!! i was so p*ssed off that i told him i will never ever get pregnant again because my body is already deformed and i dont want to make it look UGLIER ! i know that it was something so bad to tell him but i just cant bear that im only 25 and my body looks already like an old fat wrinlked granny! … he told me that we could arrange everything with surgery… the only problem is that the country where i stay doesnt do cosmetic sugery and i dont have enough finance to go abroad to pay for surgeries ( I live in a remote island)
Tell me ladies, has anyone of you gone through the same pain as me??? what have you done to feel better? i need good and intelligent answers as my hormones are already upside down so i dont need sarcasm as answer!
ps: it was an unplanned pregnancy but not an unwanted
Ramesh Klinkert answers:
Relax do not panic everything be ok.
1. Your not fat your pregnant, you have the baby inside of you with fluid around the baby this is the “extra weight gain” its your baby grown inside of you nothing more. When pregnant a new mum will have extra fluid also in her body, she will swell up so those are cheeks that are swollen nothing more esp in the heat and feeling too hot you swell up bit more then normal. You need to eat to keep you and the baby healthy with the right neutrons for the baby grown inside of you, eat food with Omega 3 in it helps the baby brain growth and tissues. And those work colleagues tell them to get lost, they should not be interfering in your life, eat what fancy when you fancy, if get cravings ask your doctor to do iron and Vitim tests as this is the normal cause to cravings.
Don’t worry about stretch marks, your skin is stretching to accommodate your baby, needs room to grow, when give birth your belly will become smaller and those marks will turn white where nobody will notice and if do sit ups 6 weeks after birth begin, your stomach will become flat once again, you can have the body once had again and would advice to breast feed, not just best for baby but for new mum’s too, it contracts your womb which is like doing sit ups and help you along also, i regret not breast feeding known that now!
When i was pregnant i ate 24/7 i’d eat loads cheese toasties in the morning double the amount then normal, come lunch time and i’m cooking up at least 6 burgers with chips and a huge chinese at night time on top of a load of junk food. I was so huge at 6 months people were asking me when i am due and be soon coming, i had stretch marks, we all get them, but now don’t notice mine, if went for a walk my ankles and legs be swollen, my fingers and face was swollen too, its all part of pregnancy. After i gave birth i could see my toes again (lol) where as before needed help to put my shoes on as couldn’t bend over but then was able to do it all myself, my mad cravings and over eating stopped too, felt strange to be eating so less, and within 6 weeks was back in my old jeans again too, was great not feeling like was going to fall over!
So don’t worry we all go through it as women, all have the same pregnancy signs and all lose them after we give birth, so enjoy pregnancy months and tell those who comment on you that they once were the very same while pregnant and to get lost, to let you enjoy this experience as it is wonderful time.
Congrats and good luck
Thomas asks…
very odd question.. lol?
ok so me and my friend are both 20 weeks pregnant. we both have doctor appointments today. i have only gained 2 pounds during my whole pregnancy, and my doctor seems to be getting a little worried (even though i eat what i should be, so dont get on me about that lol). well anyways my friend has already gained about 20 pounds, and her doctor gets upset at her for it…..
so my question(s) is/are:
1. how can i make it seem like i have been gaining more weight so my doc wont get all mad (like is there anything i can eat right before the appointment to seem heavier?)
2. How can my friend make it seem like she hasnt gained as much (is there anything she can do today or right before the appointment to trick the scale?)
lol these questions are so dumb, i know. i dont even know if it is possible what i am asking, but i just wanted to make sure. lol thanks
calm down ya’ll it was a simple question. there is nothing wrong with my baby, his measurements are fine–as a matter of fact he is coming in 2 weeks bigger then he really is supposed to. i just eat very well and exercise daily cuz i dont wanna end up gaining 100 pounds!! geez lol—some of you took this question WAY too seriously haha.
as for my friend—well i dont know, shes just big i guess.
btw i gained only 19 pounds with my first pregnancy and gave birth to a healthy 8 lb. 9 oz. baby—hardly small!!
and im not gonna “eat more” then i need just to gain weight, that doesnt seem very healthy at all.
Ramesh Klinkert answers:
I gained 10 pounds the first month and haven’t gained any since… And I am 19 weeks now. I asked my doctor about that to ensure my theory was correct and he said yes. My theory is, I wasn’t an excellent eater before being pregnant, but now that I am pregnant I take my vitamins and eat much healthier. I have lost fat and gained baby weight. My pants fit looser around my waist, but not my belly, which is growing more and more.
I don’t think your doctor should really be so “concerned” if your eating healthier. Consider keeping a dietary log between this appointment and your next appointment and let him review it. You can even keep track of your calories etc. Your doctor has to know better than that. Neither of you should be trying to deceive your doctors. They do get paid to be concerned for your child and you, however if you feel they are a bit off consider working with them not deceiving them.
Your friend has gained a reasonable amount, I think 35 lbs is the max for an average weight person, but that all depends on the person.
Your friend shouldn’t be concerned about “tricking the scale” either. Unless shes a heavy set lady already and has gained more than she should (obese women should gain on average of only 15 lb compared to 35lb in an average woman). She will loose alot of the weight after birth and breast feeding. As long as she wants to lose the weight and tries she will be fine. Its the women that complain about being fat and sit at home eating cheese burgers that don’t.
Anything worth having takes work =p
Also for your friend, she might consider not “eating for two”. Stop when your no longer hungry and dont eat fatty foods because she craves them. The average craving lats 8 minutes. Wait 15, if shes still craving then consider meeting that crave. My mother advised me when I told her I was pregnant to eat healthy and don’t think about “eating for two”. Some women over think that and think it means splurge and eat tons.
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