Lose Belly Fat Cure

Ramesh Klinkert answers:

Hmmmm not sure what you are looking for here…a compliment? Maybe you are a little too full of yourself. Are you humble or do you tend to focus just on yourself and all your accomplishments? Yeah you do sound like you have a lot going on that is positive. If your issue is that a girl you like won’t date you, remember it’s not always clear what attracts another person to you. Sometimes it’s just chemistry. It may be the look in your eye, your smile, the way you smell or some other quirk she likes. Maybe this girl doesn’t feel anything when she is around you and that’s why she wont date you. I you keep on this track, and you are a genuinely cool person, you should be able to attract a girl you want sooner or later. Be patient.

Ramesh Klinkert answers:

First of all, don’t be so hard on yourself. I have been where you have been with low self-esteem and feeling like I’m overweight. The very first thing you need to do,and I speak from personal experience, is learn to accept yourself. I’m all for making changes but remember that if you don’t like yourself now, you will not like yourself later. You will place yourself in a never ending cycle of striving to reach perfection. This can lead to self-destructive behaviors like eating disorders, which trust me you do no want! Sure, there are things you want and may need to change about yourself but DO NOT feel as though reaching that “ideal” will make you happy. Again, I learned this the hard way.

Now, as for weight, I can help you there. I did not have anyone to explain things like weight loss and beauty care to me so I’ve learned it myself. You will not see results overnight, but you will see them eventually.

First for weight loss. I lost a TON of weight in a summer by following a few simple guidelines: Eat breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Also eat every two to three hours. Eat a snack between 100 to 200 calories. Next, eat one serving of protein (meat, beans, dairy), one serving of slow carbs (fruits or veggies), and one serving of starchy carbs (bread, pasta, potatoes, corn, peas) every meal. This will help your body to metabolize food correctly. Also, drink water and cut back on pop. This way, you can still eat your favorite foods just in moderation. Eat a balanced diet. Pineapple is a GREAT weight loss food because it has enzymes to help reduce the amount of fat you absorb when you eat. I would also eat yogurt everyday or take a probiotic pill as the bacteria has been shown to aid in weight loss. Green tea has also been shown to boost metabolism.

Next is exercise which will help in the weight loss and how your body looks overall. Try subscribing to fitness magazine or look routines up on reputable websites. Follow the plans, aiming for 30 minutes of cardio and one strength workout three to five times a week. I use workouts from magazines, and studies have shown you can get fit at home using dumb bells, stability balls, etc. Also, when you aren’t working out try doing squats during commercials and situps. The best piece of advice I can give you it to do your research! That’s how I learned how to get over my “awkward years.”

For beauty, I would try some home remedies. One, use a whole body moisturizer two times a day, once in the moring and once at night. For your face, I used to have HORRIBLE pimple problems until I started putting honey on my face. Put it on for 15 to 30 minutes and then wash it off. THis will sound nuts, but then put a thin layer of olive oil on your face. If you’re worried about breaking out then put a little on a small area of your face and see what happens. I have VERY oily skin and it has never made me break out.

Another facial mask you can try is equal parts (usually a tablespoon of each) milk, oatmeal, honey, and sugar. Mix this in a bowl, put it on your face for 15 to 30 minutes and wash it off. It works wonders I promise! You can also try sour cream or yogurt, milk, and oats. Leave it on for 10 to 15 minutes and wash it off.

Pluck your eyebrows. They are the frame of your face! Find a cute hairstyle! And most of all, find your confidence. NOTHING is more attractive than confidence! I know that sounds very after-school-specialish but take it from me, it’s true!

I really advise looking on the internet to find more information. I could tell you TONS more about what I’ve learned but it would take days! Good luck! Search engines are a girl’s best friend so decide what you would like to change and go for it! I’m pulling for ya! Just use caution when finding information! If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is! Well, that’s all I got for now!

Ramesh Klinkert answers:

Absolutely. I enjoy grappling with men. However, I do not do so for personal erotic pleasure. I have grown up in martial arts and in grappling, and I am most familiar with having males as training partners. To me, partnering with a female for hard grappling feels odd, especially since most average females tend to be lighter than I am. When I roll with an average sized female, I feel I need to be fairly gentle. With a guy, I like to wale on him.

Also, I’ll note that I wrestle & grapple with men professionally as a session wrestler. I wrestle with my dear clients in sessions that can be purely competitive, semi-competitive for fun and fitness, or domination-based.

Note also, that for personal erotic pleasure, I would choose to “wrestle for play” with a female. And with one special female in particular.

Cheers!
Jolie Voltaire
Doom Maidens
Session Wrestlers Extraordinaires

Ramesh Klinkert answers:

Say ‘Hi’.
Btw, telling a girl she has nice shoes is a GOOD idea.
Be a bit (not too much) specific, tho. It shows that you appreciate her style and is a good way to get her to talk, too.

When talking to women (or people in general) the skill isn’t in ‘talking’ – it’s in ‘LISTENING’. Ask questions, but don’t do it like you’re doing a survey.
You can make statements, which become questions by adding ‘…don’t you think?’ at the end.

Talk clearly, with a masculine tone/delivery. Think before you speak. Don’t argue! (also, be sure to have fresh breath).

Talk about fun stuff. Ask her what she likes doing. Talk about things that make her ‘feel good’ about herself.
Good topics:
i) popular music / concerts
ii) cinema / video / theatre
iii) sports / olympics / fitness
iv) holidays / travel /places
v) fashion / style / beauty
vi) famous people / gossip
vii) horoscopes/mystical
viii) arts/crafts
iv) hobbies / interests

Keep up-to-date. Keep conversation up-beat and ‘positive’. Don’t speak bad of people. Don’t talk about bad news or your ‘problems’. If a girl starts talking about her problems, just let her talk – don’t provide answers. Don’t interrupt. Try to be positive and optimistic.
In talking, try to maintain eye contact. Also smile and show interest. Nod your head. Show that you are ‘still there’. Touching the girl will make the conversation more friendly. It brings you ‘closer’.
Be witty…not too serious. Poke fun out of the girl. Don’t be rude/cruel. (Also don’t do that ‘negging’ stupidness.). Show that you can take being poked fun at, too.

Topics to avoid:
i) politics
ii) religion
iii) abortion
iv) rape
v) bodily (toilet) functions
vi) ex-girlfriends.

Most of all….be yourself. Don’t talk too long. Be the first to ‘end’ the conversation…before it gets boring. Also it creates an effect of her ‘wanting more’.

UKJazzCat!!

Ramesh Klinkert answers:

Just my opinion, but I would forget the lines. Girls can smell them coming a mile away, and most of us hate them for the fake way they come off. I think the best thing for you to do would be to get involved in some community activities, go to the gym, to church, go join some different groups. When people say that they just can’t find anyone to date it’s usually because they are looking in all the wrong places. Decide what kind of girl you are looking for and act accordingly. You want an intelligent one? Then go hang out at the library or the university (away from the sorority dorms of course…..far, far away…..). You want an out doors type, or one who cares about fitness? Then go to the gym, or there are a multitude of camps you can sign up for. You see, it’s really not as difficult as you think it is(: So get out there and find her. If she’s right for you then you won’t have to worry about lines or breaking the ice, it’ll just happen organically.

Ramesh Klinkert answers:

Actually i think you’re height is like perfect too :p most girls are short haha i’m only 5’4 1/2 and i dont really like guys tooooo much taller than me, like 6′ft is way too tall haha i wouldnt not date a guy cuz of his height, but yeah i prefer your height